I need to loose weigh but cant seem to follow through. |
I am a guy over 300lbs, my wife weighs like 140. She hates Healthy food, she hates the way it tastes, she cannot eat food with out salt, she buys alot of sweets and cakes and chips and snacks, well you get the point.
I have absolutely no self control my taste buds rule my appetite and on top of all that I have zero motivation to excercise, I do a very physically demanding job and when I get home I dont wanna leave the house to add more physical strain to my body. Everytime I start excercizing I stop after a few days or end up ruining the calories I burnt with dinner. My wife is an excellent cook, but when she doesnt cook its usually fast food or pizza, wings, stromboli's, cheesesteaks; as I said she hates healthy food. I dont mind healthy food, but given a choice I always choose the unhealthy stuff, I feel like I need to be restricted in order to follow a diet, but then again when I loose the weight am I gonna go crazy and strat eating what I shouldnt due to restraint? I know that I am responsible for what I eat 100%, I'm not being force fed but I dont know what to do. I want to be lean and fit, but I feel like I will never ever do it in my current state. To sum it up, Im 25 years old and I feel and act like 52. Pain, shotness of breath, pounding heart rate etc.... I need help, I do not want my only option to be surgery because I cannot afford it. My mom and her sister both died from diabetis I just had a beautiful baby girl 10mnths old and I dont wanna die when she is 10years old like my mom did.
by Dr Artour Rakhimov
on 27 Jun, 2011
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I gave some some second thoughts to this message since they continue to send it again and again to my email box. Judging by the tone and style of the message, this person actually has no desire to lose weight. It is just for waste of time of other people and look important. Like children playing with temper tantrum to attract attention. |
by Denise Payne
on 26 Jun, 2011
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IT'S MORE ABOUT WHAT IS BOTHERING YOU THAT CONTRIBUTES TO YOUR STRUGGLE WITH FOOD AND LIFESTYLE CHOICES THAN THE FOOD OR SPOUSE |
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Experience with Couples and Relationship Enhancement, Teen Anger Management,and Parenting Support |
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Master of Arts in Clinical Psychology with an Emphasis in Marriage and Family Therapy from Pepperdine University at Malibu |
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by Michele Risa
on 16 Jun, 2011
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Glad to hear that you already know that diets don't work! If you'd be interested in exploring an approach WITHOUT A DIET but rather focuses on learning how to master the mind which has been successful for many people, I'm happy to have a free consultation with you. |
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We specialize in weight loss, anti aging, and help you manage stress and the challenges in your life, which short-circuit your success. We emphasize a 1-on-1 approach, as yoga was traditionally taught. We all need ongoing support, so we also offer classes LIVE 365 days a year. Our motto for healthy living, "find your personal formula for self love through body mind and spirit to create the life you want." |
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by Ondina Nandine Hatvany, MFT
on 12 Jun, 2011
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This sounds so difficult I am sorry to hear about the lack of support you have to do what you know is best for your health. When the mind with all it's "shoulds" about what you "should" or "should not" be eating is in battle with and the emotional body guess what usually wins? Yup, you got it the emotional body. It is really crucial to get support if you are trying to change old habits. Stuff around food runs deep and so much of it is emotional. Really if it was a simple matter of making smart choices don't you think you would have done that long ago? I'm not sure where you are located but if you are in the Bay Area, California there is an excellent organization: www.APTEDsf.com (Association for Professionals treating eating disorders San Francisco) that can provide resources and support. There might be a local APTED in your area too. Caheck it out. Feel free to call my confidential office line (415) 381-1065 if you want more referrals. Warm Regards Ondina Nandine Hatvany, MFT (Director of the Eating Disorders Program at the Community Inst of Psychotherapy, San Rafael, CA) |
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by Jose Penrose
on 11 Jun, 2011
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Firstly you do need to take responsibility yourself for what you choose to eat. Ask yourself why you're not taking care of yourself, why, in fact, you are actually choosing to harm yourself. You are eating yourself into an early grave, as you already realise. Secondly, exercise is a very important part of weight loss. It doesn't have to mean going to the gym every night. It can just mean taking the stairs instead of the lift, walking one or two stops on the bus or tube. Introduce some regular exercise gradually into your life. Finally, losing weight is about developing a new, different and healthy relationship with food. Hypnotherapy can help you to do this. Look for a member of the National Council for Hypnotherapy or the CNHC to find a reputable practitioner. |
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I trained as a person centred counsellor in 1999, having spent 8 years volunteering in a youth counselling service. I have been in private practice since 2000, qualifying as a hypnotherapist in 2001. I use an individually tailored approach with each and every client. |
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by Dr Artour Rakhimov
on 11 Jun, 2011
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Sure. go on the website NormalBreathing.com and learn how to get more oxygen in body cells by breathing correctly. |
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