Ever have the feeling that dis-ease is controlling your life? Perhaps it's not even a chronic illness. Do you harbor anger, resentment, frustration? Maybe it's just me and I'm talking to myself, but I've let all of these rule my life at some point. I suppose that's why I had a complete epiphany this week after listening to the audio lecture program "Why People Don't Heal" By Carolyn Myss. Therefore I thought we'd take a look at the work of Ms. Myss and the important insight it gives us. Coupled with my own (ever expanding) view of health and wellness vs. dis-ease, I give you: "Four Creative Steps To Healing." From it, I hope you'll gain insight into yourself, your behaviors and perhaps the way you deposit or withdraw from your own health currency. Step One: Understand Your Energy
We've all heard about the aura that surrounds the body, but what could this possibly have to do with our health? According to Myss, in her experience, the energetic exchange that happens within this field is where our thoughts become translated into energy (or what she terms as one's biography becoming their biology). Translation: These cycles or waves of energy that surround our body are a function of our thoughts. Thoughts are energy waves then, that affect our health in a positive or negative way. Let's look a little closer to see why this happens.
The contributors to this energy surrounding the body are the 7 major "chakras" (chakra in Sanskrit means "wheel or vortex"). It may help to note that Myss refers to each energy wheel as a "computer," one which collects and interprets information and "perceptions" the mind has about the world. It has been shown scientifically that each of these 7 wheels of energy corresponds to a particular endocrine gland in the body. Translation: In light of the adage, "you are what you eat" we could conclude with with some degree of certainty that "you are what you think." Step Two: Let Go Of Old Wounds
Now that you've been (hopefully) examining your thoughts and translating all of your negative energy into positive, Myss throws another curve ball. Would you agree with her that "healing is unattractive?" I needed some time to think about this. Why in the world would healing be unattractive?
Answer (According to Myss): Our wounds give us power! And after careful contemplation, I've outlined three ways I have done this, myself. Ask yourself, are you leading with your wounds? You'll know if you done any of the following:
Used Wounds to Manipulate a Situation or a Person:Let's say we find a situation unsavory, scary or inflaming a personal "hot button." Have you ever avoided a situation that you really needed to face head on? Or, how 'bout this one, "I just can't get into this relationship - I've been burned before!" Okay, maybe I am just speaking to myself here, but I admit, I've used my wounds (more times than I care to admit) to refrain from loving unconditionally.
Use Them to Attract Other Wounded Souls Who Want to Exchange in the "Wound" Game: I've done this myself, too. In listening to another share their wounds, I've given up compassion for wound ante – "Ill see you and raise you one." Agreed, there is a difference between healing from a wound and "leading with a wound" but, in my humble opinion, I'd be willing to bet that we know the difference between being healthy and not. For example, I know when I'm healthy when I can listen with empathy, void of getting out my toolbox to "fix" or laying out my wounds unsolicited.
Give Up Our Ability to Listen:Dr. Bernie Siegel in his book "Peace, Love and Healing" basically says, listening is the work of angels. Many times listening is all we have in a situation when someone calls on us for help. If we express what Ms. Myss calls "woundology" or "leading with our wounds" we're saying that we can't stand the loss of power and desire all the attention for ourself.
Since I'm laying out all my laundry here today (And what would Myss have to say for this?) here's an example of the way I've led with my wounds: Recently someone confided in me about a situation where they had lost a loved one. While listening attentively, my mind searched its experiences for a similar event. All this so I could say: "Oh that's terrible! Don't feel so bad though, because I've been through this thing that is so much worse!"
To reclaim my character, however, (and after I realized what was happening), I caught myself. In reality, all this person really needed was my ear to listen unconditionally.Step Three: Learn To Forgive Yourself and Others
The final two steps are remedies which can help heal our anger, resentment and frustration. Step three then, is simply forgiveness. For to forgive in earnest then takes our energy out of its emotional investment in the past. We give up the need to spend wasted energy making negative deposits into this account and to paraphrase Myss, is the fastest way to bring our energy into real time. Translation: Trust me, you'll know authentic forgiveness when you experience it. The body literally "lets go" of the weight of the past.Step Four: Love Yourself
The final creative step to healing? Loving yourself, of course! This is the most challenging concept, in my opinion. Why? To begin we must start where we are, and love and accept ourselves for who we are, today. How does this help our health? It's simple, when we realize that we are stunting our personal growth and health through negative self talk, we can then begin to love ourselves one piece at a time.
Here's how it's done (Author's note: beware, this practice may seem untraditional yet, if you'll consult Louise L. Hay's book: "You Can Heal Your Life" - you'll find that this is one of the remedies she used to heal herself from cancer):
Every day spend 15 minutes in the mirror sending love to yourself! Start small by finding one part of yourself where you can find perfection. Each day, or week, or month choose new parts of yourself to love. Before long, you'll find an image of perfection before your eyes. And you'll have purified your energy, to boot!
In closing, we could make all of these steps very simple, indeed. For there is only one step here that will make you healthy and happy. Remember: It's when we've learned to love ourselves that we can truly be healed.References:
Myss, Carolyn, Ph.D. Why People Don't Heal. Colorado, 2001. Sounds True Audio.
Siegel, Bernie, M.D. Peace, Love and Healing. New York: HarperCollins. 1989.
Hay, Louise L. You Can Heal Your Life. California: Hay House. 2004.
By Laura Turner
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