Marriage is supposed to be until death do you part. The honeymoon is supposed to be a fun time where the two of you can celebrate your marital union. No marriage is perfect. There are bound to be arguments, differences of opinion. Most healthy marriages take work, forgiveness and often therapy.
However, there are times where it’s better to end it as soon as possible, than running into more risks. Many times manipulative partners don’t show their true colors at first. Unfortunately, many people realize that their marriage is not going to last after the honeymoon is over. There are several signs that suggest you need to get a divorce after the honeymoon period is over.
Physical assault is a common problem in marriages. In fact, it is estimated that 24 percent of women have been a victim of violence at the hands of a partner. Physical assault puts your life in danger. Many women think that if their husband only hits them one time, then it is not a big deal.
However, domestic violence is rarely an one-time occurrence. It has a tendency to get worse over time. You do not want to wait until domestic violence escalates.
Even if your husband has not hit you yet, he may be abusing you in other ways. If he constantly yells at you, threatens you and puts you down, then this is a sign of emotional abuse. Emotional abuse often precedes physical assault. That is why if you are experiencing any type of abuse, then it is best to contact Kelm & Reuter, P.A. or a local divorce attorney.
Sexual assault is defined as the act of touching someone inappropriately without their permission. It can also be defined as forcing a person a person to engage in a sexual act that they do not want to. Marital rape is a serious problem. If someone feels entitled to your body, you should run. That is a major red flag. Emotional manipulation, withholding money, power, guilt, or force are some ways people can be coerced. Remember you can’t consent if you are asleep. Just because you consent for an activity doesn’t mean you consent to any. You can also withdraw your consent if you are no longer feeling it.
Lying About Debt
Lovemaking in a marriage should be consensual. Both parties should be willing to participate in it. Forced sexual activity is not loving and a serious offence.
In order for a marriage to work, both parties will have to be honest. This includes being honest about your finances. If your spouse lied about their debt, then you may want to consider getting a divorce. This doesn’t mean to not marry someone because of their debt. However, lying about finances and financial manipulation is something to worry about. Chances are financial manipulation may continue. This often goes hand in hand with other types of abuse and is a common power move abusers may use to try and force you in a relationship.
Financial problems are one of the top causes of marital problems. Additionally, if your spouse will lie about finances, then he may lie about other things.
Everybody wants their marriage to last. However, divorce may be the best option in some cases. It is best to end the marriage early if you realize that it will not work. Sexual assault, physical assault and lying about debt are some of the grounds for divorce.
By Kara Masterson
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