Hello - Pam -  you sound as if you have many, many problems to deal with.  Firstly - none of your conditions will be helped by junk food etc., and I wonder if you would benefit from some sub-liminal tapes by Mike Brescia - not only for you but for your daughter as well.   You could maybe join forces with your daughter to help each other through the initial changes you need to make - I would suggest finding a counsellor in your area who specialises in eating disorders www.speaktoacounsellor.com might have someone in your location.    I commend you for wanting to do the work and recognising that things have reached a stage where you want to change.   Get the boys to help you with the clutter and explain to them that you want things to be better, but that you need help - from them, and from others.   You say you do not want the GP but some of those conditions require expert intervention and need treatment.     You and your daughter would benefit from exercising (slowly at first even if it is a short walk in a place you like and talking and sharing).    Google Mike Brescia who has tapes called Think Right Now - they work on alpha waves in the brain and come under a number of different headings, including depression and anxiety.

Good wishes

Denise